Let me start this post with a disclaimer, since titles like that can often prompt backlash even before entire articles are read. This post is meant to encourage weary moms. It is meant to inspire, uplift and support every woman who is doing her best to love and raise her children in a stressful, busy, often chaotic world. It is not meant to imply that there is something inherently wrong with Disney Land or that any parent who takes a child there is not a good parent.
Okay, now that business is taken care of, we can get on with the post. Most mothers today have so many tasks and duties to carry out on a regular basis that they rarely have time to sit and relax. The face of motherhood has drastically changed over the years; some changes have been welcomed by a majority of women, others, not so much.
For instance, I don’t know many mothers who like the fact that they have to instruct their children on survival skills for mass shooting situations. That should not be a normal part of motherhood, but in this modern world, it is.
Many mothers nowadays work from home or outside the home to help make ends meet. In fact, a lot of women are primary breadwinners in their homes. No two motherhood journeys are exactly the same. No one can tell an individual mother what is best for her family.
I have no way of knowing what is in your heart if you are a mother reading this article. However, I think I can safely assume that at some point in your life, you have doubted yourself or have grown weary and convinced yourself that you are somehow failing your children if you can’t provide certain luxuries or adventures or experiences that you (perhaps mistakenly) believe the average mother is able to provide.
If I could shout one thing from a rooftop to all weary mothers today, it would be this: You are enough! I want you to know that your children will survive not having the latest greatest Nintendo PlayStation, top of the line Nike shoes or iPhones. What they need most is you. They need to know they can turn to you for support, that you will love them even when they make mistakes or commit wrongful acts.
Children need ample time with you, their mother. There is no replacement for you in their lives. They don’t care if you can’t take to them to Disney Land every year. Remember that day recently when you sat down to color a picture with your toddler? Remember when you and your teenage daughter took a walk in the woods and talked about boys? Remember when you let your son build a campfire and you roasted marshmallows together?
At the time, you may not have realized that what you were giving your children was far greater than any store-bought product or prime package vacation. Your daily life may be very different from the moms who live on your street. That’s okay, because each of your lives are knitted together in community to create a beautiful, diverse world and lasting story.
Rest easy, weary moms. Mother Teresa used to say that God does not expect us to be successful, only faithful to our calling. If you have been called to motherhood, then God chose you, specifically, to be the mother of your children because He knew you were perfect for the
job. He does not measure your accomplishments nor love you according to how much “stuff” you can acquire for your children as they grow.
He loves you just as you are and expects nothing more from you than to give your heart to Him and to the children with whom He has blessed you in life. You are enough. Your home need not look like the center of a posh living magazine. You need not have all necessary funds to pay for college educations set aside in your savings account. You need not be the best cook or most ingenious entrepreneur. You need not have endless amounts of energy or abs of steel.
You are enough. Your children need you. They need time with you, truth from you, support and encouragement from you and unconditional love. God sees and blesses your efforts.
You are enough.
Writer Bio: Judy Dudich
Judy Dudich resides in the beautiful woods of Pennsylvania, where 24 acres of land and a home-office provide the perfect setting for her children’s home-education and her own homesteading and business ventures. Life is full of blessings (and challenges!) for Judy, as a wife, mother of 10 and Grammy to six. She is a published author, whose book, “I Surrender/A Study Guide for Women” continues to encourage and support others in Christian family lifestyles throughout the world. Judy has also previously worked in the online speaking circuit. Her passion for permaculture, re-purposing, foraging and organic gardening fills her days with learning and adventure that she loves to share.